Wednesday, January 28, 2009

CONVALIDATION (AND 2009 GOAL #8)

Kev and I were married six and a half years ago in the Gunnison National Forest in Colorado. We didn't originally set out to have a destination wedding, but we couldn't get the guest list below several hundred without feeling guilty for not inviting dozens of cousins, distant relatives, co-workers, grade school friends, parents' acquaintances... you get the picture. So we decided to ditch the traditional and opt for some place out of the way yet beautiful to exchange vows. Our most immediate families and life-long friends joined us in the majestic mountains of Crested Butte as witnesses to our love. There were about 30 people in attendance as my father walked me down the makeshift aisle to Willie Nelson's "I've Loved You All Over the World." The minister gave an incredible ceremony based on the simplicity and spontaneity of nature before we, newly married, skipped back up the aisle to Cat Steven's "If You Want to Sing Out, Sing Out." I know everybody says this, but everyone there said it was the "coolest" wedding they'd ever been a part of. I don't know...I like to believe it.

Anyway, as unique and fitting as our wedding was, there was one thing missing. That was our Catholic faith. We are both cradle Catholics (I just learned that term from my priest & I know I'm overusing it, but so what?) and have had all of our sacraments except holy matrimony. We honestly hadn't given it too much thought. We love God. We are spiritual, religious, curious, devout. Over the years, we've engaged in various religious retreats, one being the year-long Jesuit retreat called The Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius. I think we've both felt blessed and loved by God despite the fact that He hadn't officially blessed our union. We're still married, right?

I guess people change. We are both in a place now where having our marriage blessed by the Catholic Church is very important to us. So this Valentine's Day* we are celebrating a convalidation ceremony so God and the Catholic Church will officially recognize us as the soul mates we really are. How romantic, right? It will just be our parents and us and our sweet, wonderful priest after the 5:30 mass. We will then all go out for a nice dinner to celebrate love, commitment, and God. Who knows, maybe this has been the missing piece in our puzzle that is baby-making.

*I know it may seem strange to celebrate a very Catholic tradition (the sacrament of HOLY MATRIMONY) on a day that is no longer recognized as a saint's holy day by the Catholic Church, but at least the day does have Catholic origins. Do you think God will mind?

6 comments:

MrsJoyner said...

I think that is fantastic...I think faith plays an important role in all aspects of life, and I've come to believe that more since trying (and currently failing) to conceive. After the m/c I was so angry at God, but he brought strength to me through my husband and family..w/o that, I don't know what I would've done. Plus now you have two times a year you can celebrate when you came together as a couple. Congratulations!!

danielle said...

I think it's a wonderful idea! And it's even more wonderful because it's a special thing for the two of you! You're wedding does sound amazing...I'm sure there are pics on CO somewhere I'll have to find! I hope it turns out as magical as you expect it to be!

Sara said...

I don't think God will mind at all. We were not married in the church either because we decided on it so quick we couldn't get the church...so we went to the courthouse and two months later we had a small ceremony at our church....my grandfather (a pastor) even came to make my dream of him marrying me a reality. Valentines Day will be our one year wedding anniversary...and not only do I think God won't mind....I think he smiles on you either way!

Kim said...

I am sure god won't mind and in fact will delight at your bringing your marriage to Him. Thanks for stopping by my blog and congratulations on your celebration.

Michelle said...

That sounds great! And your wedding sounds like it was BEAUTIFUL! I don't think God will mind.

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